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Life is just moving right along here. I truly enjoyed my vacation time of doing nothing. It felt so great to just not have to be on the move and work and just shut down for a week. I needed it badly. But all things have to come to an end and Tuesday it is back to the drawing board for me.

The biggest news here is that my daughter got engaged to her high school sweetheart 2 weeks ago. It caught me by surprise to be honest. And as a parent you question the decision they made, and wonder if it is the best for them. So the best laid out plans change. She will be moving out to Colorado in the fall to join him, seeing he is stationed there and continue school next spring there. I have come to grips with this slowly. And I had to realize that ..well ..mother here didn’t do anything different then she is doing at that age. My wonderful mother reminded me of that when I told her the news. But I am happy for her. and hope for the best, which parent wouldn’t.

Our little Teka has been diagnosed with diabetes. I have been cooking her food and have been giving her supplements since her diagnosis, but her sugar level is just not going down. I am going to try one more thing with her and hopefully that will help on getting her levels down.  If it doesn’t I will have to make the very hard decision on having her euthanized. I know Ayla will be heart broken and so will we, if it comes to that.

My Son has submitted his application to graduate from MSU next year. It seems like it’s been forever since he started College, but this journey is coming to an end and now makes me feel a lot older then I want to be. 

Hot flashes are the pits..and that is all I got to say about that.

Been cooking and baking a bit more trying out some new recipes and old ones, but I had to tone it down a bit, there aren’t enough people in this house to eat it all, and I don’t want to get to a point were they can roll me everywhere. 

Reconnected with some old friends I grew up with, back in my hometown on Facebook. It is a shame when you have to ask ” Who are you, and how do you know me”. But by all rights it’s been 24 years since I left Germany, so it is understandable.

Anyway like I said in the beginning, Life just keeps on moving and so is this day. So I better make the best of it. Till the next time folks. 

 

 

What now?

That is the question that I have been asked over the last 3 months from lots of people. What will I do now, that soon I will experience the empty nest with my daughter going off to College and with me having a lot more free time and I mean a lot more on my hands.

I don’t know. Yup, there I said it. I just don’t know. I can already hear the gears grinding in some peoples heads in trying to rope me into doing something else. But you will not succeed!..I will resist!

I am thinking of making up a list, of things that I would like to do or see. Some say it’s a midlife crisis list or a bucket list. But I am not in a midlife crisis, nor do I plan on kicking the bucket any time soon. I rather make a game out of it, like “Where is Waldo”..yeah that’s what I will do. I will post pictures of various new things or places that I am doing or am, and people have to guess what it is.  So we all stay entertained I suppose.

But nonetheless, it will be quiet around here. Am I ready for it? Yes and No. I mean this is my baby that is going off to College and even though we have our share of fights and there are times that we probably can’t stand the sight of each other ( typical teenage stuff you know), we have our good times, the laughter and the craziness. And those are the times that I will miss. So I suppose it is time to be crazy on my own…watch out now!

Keep on trucking

Fall is here. Well it’s been here, you can say it is almost winter. But we have been lucky so far with some spectacular fall weather, that makes the transition to snow and cold a bit easier.

The last months have been extremely busy for me. Last weekend was the first weekend since August that I actually had a full weekend with nothing to do. How weird it was. But it gave me an opportunity to catch up on my sleep and at my age I need all the sleep I can get.

The holidays are approaching fast. Turkey day is being spend with my Son’s girlfriend family. No need to cook, even though I don’t mind it and actually enjoy it, the break is welcomed this year.

Dealing with a Teenager that has Senioritis very bad. She has now changed her mind 3 times on what college she wants to attend after graduation. She is keeping it very interesting. I think her mission of the remainder of her Senior year is to drive me completely batty and then leave me, on the edge of a nervous breakdown and laugh all the way to College.

Found out that my Son made it on the Spartan Brass Band that plays at the Basketball games, which is a nice accomplishment. Just hopeing he stays on top of his class work, and doesn’t fall behind.

So this is what has been going on with me since the last post. Now that it has calmed down I should be able to post more often. Unless my nervous breakdown comes sooner, and I am confined to a nice soft cell with a high fashion jacket.

I marked the day red on the Calendar

So here I am with 2 driving Teenagers, well my daughter is almost legal to drive, she just has to take her Drivers test and then she is fully licensed. And you always hear the horror stories from other Parents, of how their kids take the car and bring it back home with an empty tank.

So yesterday I let my Son keep the Car, so he could run some errands and take care of a few things that he needs to get done before he returns to Campus in a couple of weeks.
He went shopping for a few new clothes, got his Instrument fixed at the High school, went to a bike store to turn his bike in to get repaired and so on and on.

At 4 pm sharp I walked out of work and there he was waiting for me. Nice! Did not have to call him and ask him if he forgot to pick up his mom at work. And then get this!! ” I put 10 bucks of gas in the Car”. If I wasn’t sitting in the seat when he said that, I think I would have fainted. $10 he put in, of his own money. WOW. I was amazed. So that is when I marked the day red on the Calendar to remind me of it.

But needless to say I spend more on him after, because we went back to T.J Max for a couple more things he wanted and I paid for it. It wasn’t too bad, it was stuff on sale, so he didn’t break me.
But I can say, when a Parent tells me that their kids never put Gas in the car, that my Son did!

Too much time to think

That is what my Daughter is telling me. She says that everytime when I come up with something, like getting family pictures taken that also include her respective boyfriend and my Sons girlfriend. Because they are also part of this family. They get harassed just as bad from me as my own kids.

I have organized my Desktop, I have started using Google online Calendar  to help me out with remembering things that I need to do and which I can easily access from everywhere. I have planned things and my daughter looks at me and says ” Way too much time on your hands”. Well what do you expect, I am resting, I am recovering and my brain has time to function correctly.

Thinking about winning Lottery number combinations, so I can continue my leisurely life.  Working from home has also come to mind. But as what? Naw, eventually it all would drive me batty.

But in the meantime till the Doctor tells me I have to go back, I will dream about my dreamjobs, and recover and come up with other wonderful plans and ideas to keep my daughter guessing and giving me that look of craziness. And enjoy it all.

Got to do it again.

Alright, I know you all are just so excited to read about me bragging about my kids. But I have too. The last couple of weeks have just been so great with them, I have to brag. No other way around it.

Number one, both have turned into a Mother hen and Father rooster when it came to taking care of me. They went way out of their way of doing things for me and making sure I was alright then I would have expected them too.

Number two, there was no fighting. The time we spent together was very enjoyable. Yes, there was a little biggering here and there, but none of that constant mud slinging back and forth, that usually makes me leave the house and not come back for an hour. They got along so well and were fun to be around with.

Number three, they love me and I love them. I could not ask for better kids then the two I have. And today I realized that I love the Boyfriend and Girlfriend too. Breakfast today was fun and I realized that they compliment each other. My daughter is the more aggressive one, her boyfriend the more subtle one. My Son the cautious one, his Girlfriend the more taking a chance one.

Just how did I get so lucky? I don’t know. But tonight when I dropped my Son back off at his Dorm, I realized I would not want to change anything, and no matter what bull crap I went through in years past, even when you say I wish I knew back then what I know now so you don’t make the mistake, it was all worth it. My kids are proof.

Our funny home

I have a funny Story to tell you all. If you know me from Twitter, you know that I have a weird sense of humor and my kids have inherited that also.

So with me being on Pain killers, some heavy duty ones I might say, the kids are just having a ball with me, because apparently when I sort of wake up, after I take them and have fallen asleep, I forget what dimension I am in. I apparently have greeted my kids several times like I have not seen them for a year or so, have agreed on letting them hold wild parties and funky sleepovers. Buying things for them, and have had conversations with them that include forcing them to eat Brownies. If I see a youtube video about me like that on the Internet, they better run and hide really good.

Well with that also comes that I am not exactly on top of things and that includes getting my daughter up in the morning this week to go to school. I either sleep to good, and not hear the alarm clock or do what I did yesterday. And that is the funny Story.

I got a new Skype phone from a friend and I played around with it and found that it had an Alarm on it. So I set the Alarm for 6:30 am to get my daughter up for school. And I wanted to see if it worked and how it sounded.

Well 6:30 came and the Alarm went off, I heard it, got up and went out to the Living room turned it off after I found the right button, and went back to bed and to sleep. All the while thinking oh that Alarm clock sounds great. You see where I am going with this?

So next I wake up with my Daughter hovering over me, and going : Thank you for waking me up. It is 7:14 am, I had no time to wash my hair, it looks all icky, and Beth is going to be here soon, and I won’t have time to eat my Breakfast. You want the rest of my toast? All the while I am laying there wondering what the heck is going on? What happened? Did I miss something?

So all confused I got up, while she was grabbing her Backpack and mumbling out the door, that Life is just weird and she is hungry and wants to finish eating her Breakfast.

She got home in the afternoon with her boyfriend, and my Son and his girlfriend walked in at the same time also and the fun began. I told them all what a start to the day I had with my daughter just hovering over me and all. All of them were laughing, my daughter was denying that it was that bad. She asked that when I got up and turned the phone off, if I didn’t realize why I got up at 6:30 am? That I just got up for no apparent reason? I said, no I got up and was excited because the Alarm on the phone worked and that it sounded nice and went back to bed. Well you know that everyone was cracking up with that answer, which is true. So everyone was asking why she doesn’t set her Alarms and get up when they go off, and she said, she sleeps trough them. She tried that before and it doesn’t work. That the only thing that wakes her up is her Moms voice saying: Alex, rise and shine Sweetheart. Time to get up. Isn’t that sweet?

So this morning, I really had the intention of waking her up. I set 2 Alarm clocks, honestly I did. Well I got woken up by my daughter saying: Are you ever going to wake me up again? I don’t know what happened. I do not recall hearing any alarms or anything.

But I did go and make her toast with jam on it, so she could have breakfast before her ride came to pick her up, and I gave her kiss on her forehead and wished her a wonderful day. So I did not fall that much out of her good graces for today.

Conversations with my kids

Alright for all of you who are not blessed yet with the experience of having a conversation with a teenager or young adult, I would like to present to you two examples.  If you have little ones, oh your time is coming.

Conversations with my daughter usually happen when she is bored, waiting for her boyfriend to call or when I am busy doing something or when she has absolutely nobody to torture but me.

Daughter: MOM

Me: Yes

Daughter: You need to come here and see this.

ME: Why and what is it?

Daughter: No come here.

Daughter is sitting on Desktop looking at her Myspace. I go to her to see it, because if I don’t she will continue with MOM really.

Me: Ok what is that I’m looking at?

Daughter: This is Bella*. Look at what she is doing. She is hanging out with Supra* and Nana*.

Me: And what’s the problem?

Daughter: Well look at her. She is using so much make-up and tanning spray she looks orange, just to hang out with them.

On closer examination of the picture I must say it did not look natural.

Me: Oh wow, yea looks aweful. Does not even look healthy. Like they have Agent Orange.

Daughter: I know. Can I have a Perm?

Me: How did this get to the Perm now?

Daughter: Well I want curls, and my hair is straight. So can I have a perm

Me: You would not like it. With your long hair it would be all snarly ( knowing she hates snarly hair, and I frankly do not want to listen to her complain every morning about it, so I’m playing on that card).

Daughter: Well can I get my ears pierced again? I mean I have no Sports till spring, plenty of time before I have to take them out.

Me: So now you want your Ears pierced again. ( This would be the third time)

Daughter: Yea. Can I pick the ones I want?

Me: Sure

Ok, now you see how the conversation with my daughter went. We discussed 3 different things in 5 minutes. Oh and the *fictional names were put there for the real names, to protect the people that clearly using way too much spray on tan and should be fined for that.

Here is a phone call between me and my College son:

Me: Hi, that’s a surprise.

Son: Hey!

Me: How are you?

Son: Good

Pause

Me: What are you up to?

Son: Nothing, hanging out

Me: How are the Classes doing?

Son: Fine

Me: Getting excited about going to a Bowl game?

Son: Yup.

Me: Did any of your friends come and visit you?

Son: Yea.

Pause

Son: Well gotta go. Roomie and I wanna go eat. Love you

Me: Love you too. Bye

This conversation lasted 3 minutes max. Now he is about 2 hrs. away from me, and that is all he has to say. Basically it was a check-in call to let me know he was still alive and kicking. And this time he didn’t ask for anything. Which is actually a good thing, since his sister is asking for plenty as you can see.

So have fun all. I know when they are little you have plenty of conversations with them about the latest action hero and crayola box. This is what you are getting to look forward too..and people wonder why I think I go goofy sometimes.