The headlines this week in our local newspaper covered a local man’s suicide. He took a gun to his head and shot himself and was found dead last Sunday. He was 34 years old, married with 2 small kids. He was a well liked professional person, and I got a chance to meet him last year at a Baseball game. I know that todays Funeral will be a big event in this town, because of his impact not just in his professional life but also in his personal life he had on people.
There was no suicide note found, at least the Sheriff’s office is not saying, there were no signs of him being troubled, everyone that knew him was or is in shock over this. No one know’s what was troubling him so badly to drive him to this decision. Yes, there are certainly rumors flying around, which I won’t go into, since they are just rumors and it would be unfair to him or his family to make such accusations without any kind of proof.
My first thought was ” How selfish of him”, to take his life and leave his wife and kids this way. How selfish of him to leave his wife and kids wonder if they did something to drive him to this decision, or if they missed any signs of him being suicidal.
But then I thought about it. What kind of demons did he have that made him come to this decision, that this was the only way out of this situation? He had it all, a wonderful job, great community relations, a great wife, awesome kids, did he suffer from depression that no-one knew about? Did that contribute to his suicide?
No one knows, and I guess we will never know. The demons he carried won. But his friends and family are left to grief and wonder what happened.
If you are depressed,troubled and think or contemplate to end your life, that this is the only way out, seek help please. There are lots of support groups, professional help and centers that are here to help you. Talk to your friends, family. Committing suicide may be the easy way out of all your troubles, but it will leave a hole in the people that you leave behind that can never be filled. Don’t let the demons win.
It vcertainly does seem the easy way out. I started my blog with the assumption that when I was finished I would blow my head off.
I hope that changes:)
I looked at your blog, and read some of it. I am very sorry that your childhood was filled with violence and anger. No one should experience this. If I read correctly you are a dad yourself, and I hope that you will always remember that we do not have to be like our Parents. I got my share of beatings when I was a kid from my Mom, but I vowed that I would never beat my kids and I never did. You have a lot of heavy weight to carry, and I hope with your blog you can express yourself and channel the negativity and hurt towards it, and be a better dad for it. You have a chance to make a difference with your child. Don’t ever think that taking a gun to your head is the best solution. Your child will be angry with you for the rest of his life for making that decision. You don’t want him to carry that anger with him. Keep writing and keep being a good dad, the rewards from it are endless. Good luck
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It’s not the “easy way out.” It’s damnably difficult to successfully suicide. Psycho Kitten used to maintain the methods file, and it was extremely difficult to find something that was reliable, without causing physical injury to others, or excessive suffering.
I knew of a paraplegic that thought he had a perfect solution. He rolled his wheelchair onto the tracks just as a train was barreling towards the crossing. He bounced off the engine, and instead of a paraplegic, became a quadriplegic – which makes further efforts to take his own life rather difficult.
It’s hard to tell what pain someone else may be suffering. Suicide isn’t a statement about anyone else. It’s just the ultimate analgesic. And denying someone the right to commit suicide is the ultimate suppression of liberty. That’s why suicide is legal in all 50 states.
I wouldn’t worry a lot about someone who plans to kill himself when he finishes his blog. The software is designed so that you can always add another post. And in many cases, writing a blog returns the zest to life….
When I was young, I had a friend, her mother committed suicide by throwing herself in front of a passing train. They picked up body parts for a few days. She left behind a husband and 6 kids. The reason why? She had an affair with another Man who had left her. Now I could never imagine what went through my friends head, or her brothers, yet alone her dads. She was shy to begin with and we as young kids didn’t help much by picking on her. After her Mom’s suicide things did not turn any better, she was left to help her dad raising her younger siblings, one of them being mildly mentally handicapped. She never talked about it, but you could see the anger and hurt in her face.
I guess there is no right way to explain or understand this, especially in the case that I blogged about. I have a feeling we will never find out why. And I come to the conclusion, that unless we walk in their shoes and see for ourselves we will never understand.